Life and Marriage are similar in many ways.Firstly,there are no guarantees in either.Secondly, there are no fixed rules for living a good life or ‘making’ a good marriage that applies to all people.And both LIFE AND MARRIAGE throws up surprises.
When our opinions differ to our parent's they usually tell us that "we will alway's be your parents and you alway's be a child." However, are parents ALWAYS right? Given that parents too are human beings, is there a chance they too could be wrong or make the wrong decision(s)… Particularly when it comes to choosing a life-mate?
We have been in a nation with a close-knit family structure where parents play a large hand – and till much later in their children’s adult lives – in decision-making. From the subjects children choose in school, to the college they go to, who their friends are, to living arrangements, marriage and even when naming grandchildren, parents are/ have been an integral part of our decisions. Often when children – now adults – take decisions without consulting their parents, it is taken as an ‘insult’ or a sign of disregard.
When parents oppose your choice of spouse, it is never an easy decision; and sometimes it is not possible to keep all parties happy. In such times, it is important to know and answer: Is your decision a sensible one and will you be happy? Often taking a decision based on personal happiness is deemed ‘selfish’, however one needs to remember that till the time you are not happy, you cannot make others happy.
dkh na smile.. ur ryt ven u sey dat u cnt make odrs happy, in dis case ur parents, tyl d tym ur happy.. i agree dat d prsn u love is d best n ul b happy wid hm.. d only thng dat u cud do is try.. bt i wud sey only 1 thng dat plz dnt go against dem or tke ne rng step.. though u cnt make odrs happy tyl ur happy BUT dis olso true dat tyl d tym odrs r happy u cnt b happy..
ReplyDeletethnk bout it.. wud u b happy if ur parents rnt?!?!
ask ur heart..
try as hard as u cn smile, bt dnt go 2 d limit whr ul b forcin ur parents 2 agree wid u jst coz u wnt dem 2..!!
trust me, itl hurt dem as wel as u n evn odrs round u..!!
hpe uv undrstud..!!
Nice presentation of ur feelings. u'r very much innocent in ur writting. but remamber one thing, it's too much immpossible to satisfy everyone by anyone. if u feel that u r adult in ur decissions and that will better for ur life, so u r free. but one important thingh our parents are very very special for us.it's our moral responsibilty to give them cheerful life. so...
ReplyDeleteAshu