Precious Thing Called LOVE :)

We're often told not to give up trying,to get what we want. But there's a thin line between obsession/stalking and having found "the one" true love for you.
Whenever we feel an attraction towards someone, it's never good to push them to return our feelings.Probably we do all stupid things in so-called relationships.May be because we were insecure with ourselves, didn't know our wants or limits, or how to feel about love. We settled for less, giving twice as much, thinking it would eventually work out alright. It never does!!Best we can hope for is the strength to move on, before we've become a complete fool or arrested!
In a real partnership, one might give more than the other sometimes. In the end though, it all works out balanced, healthy, and right for each of them. However, when one partner doesn't care, they rule the relationship, because the one who cares will do anything and everything to make it work out. They become a fool for what they believe is love. Don't ever let this be YOU!!
Nothing in the world that is free is as valuable as love presented to another person. All you can do is show your very best and if that person does not reciprocate then you have done all you can do. It is up to you when you feel you should move on but don't waste something as valuable as your love when it will not be returned.

Remembering Dii on her DEATH ANNIVERSARY

Every year when August 25th hits I think that this year will be different. I won't be sad, I will forget my life shattering 5 years ago. Today is the anniversary of my sister's death. I miss her so much. She was a strength to me in tough times, she gave me support and unconditional love. She was a great mom and a wonderful older sister. It's not that I blame her for leaving ME all alone.I still think about all the times I shared with her. All the times that we had together were so very precious to us. We had a connection that I believe nobody has with anybody, except maybe twins.I often wonder what she would be like if she were alive. I wonder what career goal she would have followed. I wonder if she would have a family of her own. The one thing I do not ever wonder about though is whether we would still be as close. I know, in my head and my heart that we would be just as close if not closer than ever before. I always asked GOD WHY HER...?
I have told myself ever since the day she died, that if I live to have a family of my own, I will tell my children about my experiences with Dii.. When my kids will be old enough to understand what I went through with Dii, her death, and how I coped, then I will share it all with them.

Building Up Wallz

"Cinderella walked on broken glass, Sleeping beauty let her whole life pass by, Belle fell in love with a beast, Pocahontas risked her life for a feast, Jasmine could have had anyone but she chose a poor man, and Ariel, she walked on land."
So many people dislike fairy tales because it makes us believe in love, believe that a prince will swoop down and save us when something goes wrong. But I’ve come to realize that in every fairytale-like movie, every girl took a risk. Took a risk for love, took a risk in the name of love.
So, how do we know if our own fairytale won’t really happen if we don’t try, if we stop believing in love?
I know it’s hard for some of you to put down their guard and to learn to trust someone else sometimes. I know because I’ve been through it. People like us, we distance ourselves from people we genuinely like just because we are afraid to get hurt. But does building up these walls ultimately saves us from hurting?

Sounding SELFISH isnt it...?

I had always heard about relationships bad ending's but never thought they were so bad.They are AWFUL.I just wish everything would get better but NOooo how hard we try IN THE END IT DOESN'T EVEN MATTER.Everything happens according to our DESTINY..what all is written up there can not be changed.People say its the matter of hard work but I'm sorry not in relationship's .If we have to live in the REAL WORLD we have to have a practical living,thinking.We are not the actors in a soap or a film, struggling for life and still feels happy about it.Everybody loves to have a secured,soothing,stable life.Although no one can be a futurist but still some how if you know that you gonna struggle hard to survive then who's gonna jump in that condition,some times people does and after wards regret.I am not one of those who regret later on or blame others for their condition.What i do i do it in full confidence otherwise i don't.

Selfish Mean..........

So I have a whole package of personal issues and all that I'm trying very hard to resolve.
And I am trying to be nice and help everyone as much as I can.
But most of the time I end up looking like an a**hole that doesn't care about anyone else but myself.
The problem is I do not look like I have issues I look normal and happy.
but that's because i grew up like that.
Wow i don't even know where to start in fact, I have so much junk in my head.
I frequently end up doing something that i don't like doing because i try to be nice but it burns me up inside. And when I refuse I end up being an a**hole.
How do i deal with this. Because to everyone around me I appear normal so when i say I cant help them they look at me as selfish. when I really want to get my own head straight before worrying about everyone else.
I look normal and happy from outside but thats because i try to keep positive attitude even when there's nothing at all to back it up and it takes a lot of energy to stay like that and not fall into depression but its not obvious to others.

Choosing Between Love And Parents

It all begins when the whole saying "BLOOD IS THICKER THAN THE WATER"comes into play.I just hate the feeling that someone is going to get hurt in the end,whether it's me sacrificing my happiness to make my parents happy or making my parents upset or breaking someone's heart.
I'd like to believe that a happy ending is possible. Am I being naive romantic in choosing love and someone that makes me happy? Or should I self-sacrifice to appease my family?
While seeing the life,we are living in and with the people around i had come to something...which i wanna share....
A suitable match made by parents is likely to be more deliberate; one that time has proved appropriate, and one dictated entirely by their experience an insight their children do not yet possess. Having lived most of their life and learnt the usefulness of certain attributes, mothers and fathers are likely to see qualities such as security, commitment, a good education and great financial and career prospects as paramount in selecting a spouse for their offspring
In short, the parents' choice of partners for their children is usually based on intellectual and material needs while the youngsters themselves seek partners to satisfy physical, emotional ones.The final element young people seek is excitement. And they get that in abundance in the early days of feeling in love' and besotted. In the absence of experience and knowledge, young adults have to rely upon their own instincts, physical demands and individual sensitivity to decide on a mate.
Attraction for most in-love couples at the youthful stage is thus spontaneous and more physical, giving maximum excitement almost reckless, in fact. Ruled totally by emotion and physical needs, it has little time for studied, parental logic, especially if this choice is in opposition to their own!

TOXIC Relationship

Walking away is not easy. Staying away is even harder.It is a day to day battle that allows true strength to emerge.

We will constantly say that the “fight” is silly.The question iz Has the toxic person really changed? Did the events that have recently unfolded been the catalyst to promoting change in that person? Have they shown proof of the change? Do not think that a simple apology or even everyone expecting that things should just go back to normal is evidence of true change. True change takes time. If it happens immediately, which I tend to doubt being true, deep changes, then time should still be taken to ensure that the change will last.Common sense says that if they have changed, then they should understand the need of caution and the importance of seeing long term proof of the change before any sort of commitment can be made to a future with them.

What will happen if they are forgiven and life gets back to normal and the toxic person has not changed?
someone with a history
of or suspicion of possible violence, then more care must be taken in considering whether to believe in the miracle of instant change.

Walking away or ending a relationship is not easy. Some people may make it look easy. When there is a history with the person,it becomes a life or death issue.

It took strength to walk away. It will take even more strength to stay away. With time, the strength required will appear to lessen.

Sister,I LOVE YOU

Diii you were the strongest girl of our home...you did the hard chores,you helped mother at work.You were so simple but alwayz received the blame.You always yearned for love and name but life can be so cruel neva thought.Thanxs for all the times you helped me to face the hardships.When the love and evrything was fading from our family you were the one who took the courage to help us recover back.You looked after me and kept me safe.I miss those fights...i miss those laughs.....You were a piece of heart which no one can take apart because you mean so so much to me.
u use to hold me tight,u use to kiss me goodnight,u use to know when im mad,u use to know when im sad
I have trouble bringing up vivid memories of u. It's not that they don't exist, it's that they stay below the surface most of the time It is a sight I will never forget and it haunted me for many months afterwards. It was if my heart had been ripped out of me for I had lost my very best friend and one of the people I admired most in the world.Many people don’t get that chance and lament about having just a little more time to tell someone how much they were loved. My sister had no doubt of how much I loved her. Yes, we had arguments, but never stayed angry with each other long, and usually ended up laughing and joking about our silly argument. NOTHING is more important than love and family, and my beloved sister, dii taught that to me more than anyone else. Her death is the hardest thing I ever faced in my life. Grief is such a painful experience and, unfortunately, the pain is there for a long time. When I could not sleep,write my thoughts down or just talk out loud to myself when no one else was available to listen.
I still miss her and sometimes cry, and I believe the pain of her loss will ALWAYS be there.I call your name and u dnt answer back,and i look for you in every familiar place
CAN I GET U BACK.........

Relationship Compatibility

Many people erroneously believe that "opposites attract", and seek a partner with interests opposite to their own under the illusion that this is a good way to form an enduring bond.While it is true that opposites do attract sometimes, this attraction usually doesn't hold up to the reality of everyday life and commitment.
Compatibility has a lot to do with the satisfaction and happiness you feel in your romantic relationships. When two people are compatible, they enjoy each other's company and find it easy to talk to one another. This is because their similarities are so great that they become excited that someone else in the world shares the same likes and dislikes. However, some couples do not find excitement in similarities, which is when opposites attract. Sometimes when two people date and have different tastes, styles and thoughts about life, they get along and are compatible. The reason for this is that these types of couples find differences intriguing and they appreciate each other for them. Respect for each other's views and opinions are important in this type of relationship.

How 2 Manage ur ANGER...?

Im nt writin ds 4 maself bt 4sum 1..who needs 2knw...

Someone said: “For every minute you are angry, you lose sixty seconds of happiness”.Once Prophet Muhammad said "The strong is not the one who overcomes the people by his strength, but the strong is the one who controls himself while in anger."

Anger is a natural sentimental condition which you shouldn’t be ashamed of. Anger symptoms are: frustration feelings, tendency to use ridicule, muscles
and nerves tension.
Ave read sumwhr...the ways 2 control your ANGER:
1- Have sense of humor. Don’t be angry of trivial matters or problems which can’t be solved easily or momentarily and try to find a way out. Also, deal with your problem as a funny thing and always simplify it. Whether you pout or not, whether you frown or not, the problem has already occurred and your emotions will not solve it so you use your common sense to deal with it.
2- Exercising is one of the efficient ways to control your anger like swimming, jogging or walking. That’s why sports people don’t get angry easily.
3- Relaxation. Try to have enough sleep because people who don’t sleep enough tend to be groggy and a trouble mongers. Also, try to meditate and have a brisk walk once in a while with maintaining deep breath exercise.
4- There are other means to control you anger like adopting a hobby (if you don’t have one). Read a lot; take care of your garden or lawn. Discuss your anger with the person who triggered it or consult a friend.

After all, anger is just a state of mind where the angry person tends to see things blurry which hinders him/ her to observe the logicality of the whole issue. Sometimes, the problem is very easy, but when we amplify it, it gets bigger and tougher to solve.

Dii.........I LOVE YOU

People say that time helps, but it doesn't really.I still miss her just as much now, as I did then. I still remember the day clearly.
I hate how people tell you that they know how you feel.They don't know how you feel. They might have an idea about how you might feel, but they're not you, they have no idea what's running through your head.
If tears could build a stairway and thoughts a memory lane..I'd walk right up to heaven
and bring you home again.My heart still active in sadness And secret tears still flow
But now I know you want us to be strong enough like you use to be..and want us to remember all the happy times.
God knows why with that chilling touch gathers those we love so much..
Few lines 4u dii...
I wanna touch your hand,
I wanna see your eyes,
I wanna be your friend,
I wanna share my lies,

I wanna show you my life,
I wanna show you my love,
I wanna show you how I cry,
But your so high above,

How is god treating you,
I hope he understands,
That when I get up there,
He will let us hold our hands,

They gave me LIFE...but it's my LIFE

Life and Marriage are similar in many ways.Firstly,there are no guarantees in either.Secondly, there are no fixed rules for living a good life or ‘making’ a good marriage that applies to all people.And both LIFE AND MARRIAGE throws up surprises.
When our opinions differ to our parent's they usually tell us that "we will alway's be your parents and you alway's be a child." However, are parents ALWAYS right? Given that parents too are human beings, is there a chance they too could be wrong or make the wrong decision(s)… Particularly when it comes to choosing a life-mate?
We have been in a nation with a close-knit family structure where parents play a large hand – and till much later in their children’s adult lives – in decision-making. From the subjects children choose in school, to the college they go to, who their friends are, to living arrangements, marriage and even when naming grandchildren, parents are/ have been an integral part of our decisions. Often when children – now adults – take decisions without consulting their parents, it is taken as an ‘insult’ or a sign of disregard.
When parents oppose your choice of spouse, it is never an easy decision; and sometimes it is not possible to keep all parties happy. In such times, it is important to know and answer: Is your decision a sensible one and will you be happy? Often taking a decision based on personal happiness is deemed ‘selfish’, however one needs to remember that till the time you are not happy, you cannot make others happy.

So called companionship

Its very difficult when you are in a relationship with a person who can never understand you...according to them they try their level best but we people don't give them time to change.
When you are already so frustrated pissed off with your surrounding's instead of getting their shoulder to cry on they themselves fight and then you are left with no one except you..Yes,its right to say that no one else can understand you well more then you do..but then people the question is then why we get in such relationships... our so called Girlfriend, Boyfriend, or friend's, relatives n on n on..the never ending list. We remember each other only in our good times what about our bad times,if we cannot rely on each other at that very moment then i am sorry to say we people our just for fun,a mere time pass.Its the human nature or tendency to look for companionship for every sphere of life.